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Cheating Spouses

If your spouse never takes business trips or feels the need to travel to work, this could be a sign that he or she is having a weekend getaway or affair with another partner. There is no protection on the street that offers the secret life and romance of a spouse or partner.

An important sign of infidelity is when a cheater spends less time with his spouse and more time with others on activities, so the uncheated spouse feels he has a spouse who is not present when the two are together. This is particularly true if the spouse is on the phone to someone else when they are told it is not working. Christine, a client, calls the spouse at work to make sure they are both in the office. Sources: 3

Fraudsters often try to belittle the uncheated spouse and get him to question his suspicions. If the faithful partner is not aware of their suspicions, it may be because they feel incompetent in the relationship, do not expect to be irritated by changes in simple things, or exhibit affective reactions in the early stages of infidelity. Sources: 3, 9

Other times, a spouse may turn to infidelity to fill the physical or emotional void left by their partner. Serial cheaters may have intended to cheat from the start of the relationship, but most unfaithful spouses do not have an affair until they have fallen in love. If the divorce is due to infidelity, research suggests that the faithful spouse may feel low life satisfaction and self-esteem in future relationships for fear of the same event occurring again. Sources: 0, 7, 9

While many people are blind when they find out that a spouse or partner is cheating, others suspect that infidelity is the norm. If you suspect that your spouse is cheating because he or she has several signs of the changing patterns mentioned above, you may be right. Remember that the most common behaviors of spouses who cheat do not prove infidelity, but if you observe many of them, your marriage could be in trouble. Sources: 1, 3, 10

Your spouse may also experience stress at work or problems in other relationships that could lead to a change of attitude. Once you have observed your spouse or partner over a sufficient period of time, you may feel that it is necessary to confront them. Sources: 1, 8

If your spouse is cheating on you, the absolutely last thing they want to do in the world is talk to you about it. Whether you confront your partner with infidelity or reject the message that “trust me, there are more things that are better for us,” you should not let anything override your gut feeling that something is wrong in your relationship. Sources: 2

If your spouse shows apathy or disinterest in things he used to love and communicate with, he may not see any reason to show up. If your spouse is interested in music or photography, this could be a clue. Photos and videos can spice things up, as they can be graphic evidence of an affair and such material can be used as evidence in divorce proceedings if the cheating spouse or wife saves or downloads a copy. Sources: 1, 4, 5

Many clients use KeepSafe for professional and personal reasons, but if you notice that your spouse has a KeepSafe account, you can’t figure out what you can do. Use the search tool at the top of the page and select “State” from the list to find an investigator for infidelity or fraud, or call us at 888-97-4669. Sources: 5, 6

If you are on a shared computer with a suspicious spouse and intend to enter “Megalodon” or the word “Megan Granger,” the private phone number will flash in the box. If your spouse uses an Android or iOS phone and is logged in to a computer shared by Google, you can enter “Find My Phone” in the search bar and you will see the location of the phone. For Google users, the heading “Previous Destination” in the navigation system records the movements of your spouses, and for Android users, the feature “Google Timeline” can be found in Google Maps app (Google Maps feature). Sources: 4, 5

Finding out that your spouse is cheating on you destroys your trust and leads you to want to prove your attractiveness by having a one-night stand that turns into a flirtation or affair. Your spouse’s provocation doesn’t make you look like a better person, but it stops adultery. Friends of scammers know that infidelity starts with your own boyfriend and are more willing to find out about you. Sources: 2, 10

Often, spouses who are having an affair push for a quick divorce in order to legitimize the deceived person. If you berate your partner for his actions, you can feel better and help your spouse justify their infidelity. Sources: 10

If your spouse or partner cheats on you, he will force you to make an important decision. If you want to find out if your spouse is cheating, it’s best to wait. Sources: 8, 10

When spouses who have multiple affairs ask me how they can help save their marriage, I tell them about the procedures we recommend to anyone who wants to stop cheating. Sources: 7

Some people seek help because they suspect their spouse is cheating. As Christine explained to me, a client told me that her parents knew her spouse was cheating on her. He called her every night while he was at work, but he stopped.